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Tuesday, August 21, 2012

60-second mind : Attraction between friends of opposite sexes






Close friends of opposite sexes—is it possible for it to be platonic? Or will there inevitably be some sort of uncomfortable subtext of attraction?

Researchers surveyed more than 80 man-woman pals. They found that men were more attracted to their female friend than vice versa. Men also consistently and mistakenly assumed that their female buddy was attracted to them more than they actually were.

And perhaps more surprising, men’s attraction to their women friends was not deterred if they, or the friend, were already romantically involved with another person.

Women, on the other hand, reported having much less desire to date their male friend if they, or he, were already romantically engaged with another. The study is in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

So how to handle the conflict of attraction between friends? In another survey the researchers found that, overall, the participants were five times more likely to see it as burden than as not.  Although the scientists spotted a gender difference here, too. Turns out men felt there was more to gain from attraction in friendships, and women felt there was more to lose. So much for the fantasy of friends with benefits.

—Christie Nicholson


platonic = friendly but not involving sex
inevitably = อย่างหลีกเลี่ยงไม่ได้
subtext =
a hidden meaning or reason for doing sth


   pals = เพื่อน(informal)
vice versa = เป็นเช่นกัน แต่ในทางตรงกันข้าม
consistently =อย่างเสมอต้นเสมอปลาย




deterred
= ถูกทำให้เปลี่ยนใจ, ถูกขัดขวาง












burden = ภาระ    it = the conflict of attraction between friends

turn out = ปรากฏว่า


fantasy
= เรื่องราวแฟนตาซี(น่าตื่นตา ตื่นเต้น จินตนาการ)

ถามว่า ข่าวชิ้นนี้ต้องการสื่อถึงประเด็นใดเป็นหลัก?


[[ตอบ  the conflict of attraction between friends คือ เราจะเลือกเป็นเพื่อน(ความสัมพันธ์แบบplatonic) หรือจะพัฒนาไปเป็นแฟน คู่รัก(ความสัมพันธ์แบบromantic)]]
//ระวัง เพื่อนสนิก คิดไม่ซื่อนะครับ//http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzHrlmil0UI